4 Divorce Tips We Learned from Katie Holmes
All the coverage about Katie Holmes' covert plans to make a clean break from Tom Cruise leave us sad…but also quite impressed. Reports of swapped out cell phones, disposable laptops and a secret move to an apartment in New York City — apparently this is what it took to escape the grips of her controlling marriage.
It's hard enough to come to terms with the end of a marriage, but thankfully, most of us don't have to struggle to this degree. That said, if you ever do find yourself in the depths of despair and desperate for a way out of your union, here are the top four things to take away from Katie Holmes' separation scheme — plus some avdvice from an actual lawyer, of course.
- Knowledge is power. “At the first signs of discomfort in a marriage, you should consult a divorce attorney," says Lubov Stark, founder and principal of Lubov Stark LLC. In Katie's case, it involved consulting her attorney dad, and possibly recruiting a publicist and some private security to set her plan in motion. For the rest of us, one trusted attorney should do.
- Get your finances in order. “The first step is awareness," says Lubov. “Collect your tax returns, a list of monthly expenses and insurance bills." If you're married to a multimillionaire like Katie is, though, you'd have probably signed a pre-nup, which complicates things. But if you're Katie, you also have a boatload of your own money, so it's really not an issue.
- Do not rush the process. Lubov gives this sound advice, and it seems Katie is in accordance. Reports that she had been planning her under-cover escape while on a recent trip to China prove that the wheels had been in motion for a while. Seems Katie knows that only fools rush in — and out!
- Remain calm. “In order to stay in control, schedule a regular exercise routine, see a mental health professional and rely on friends and family for support," says Lubov. No word on whether Katie is following the first two bits of advice (unless paparazzi-documented trips to Whole Foods count as exercise), but she seems to be spending more time with friends and family — a departure from the isolated existence she seemed to be living prior — and most reports say her attitude is upbeat and remarkable!
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