Sex Q&A: How to Get Libido Going After Baby?
You describe perfectly what many new moms, and some new dads, experience. They've been so overwhelmed with "baby chores" during the day that their minds simply can't focus. But why make it just your problem? Ask your healthcare professional about postpartum depression because symptoms in mild cases can be a lack of focus and loss of sex drive. Next, if your mind is going to wander, let it wander to a fantasy that turns you on. Another tactic: Ask someone you trust to babysit to simply give the two of you some quality time on your own. Don't talk about baby things; talk about the things you two enjoy. The little break doesn't have to be for having sex; use it to go for a walk or to watch steamy DVD. Whatever you do, don't hide this from your husband. Let him know how much you love him but that you're a bit mentally or emotionally overwhelmed by all the changes a baby brings.
Nestpert Dr. Pam Spurr, author of Make Love All Night & Talk to Him in the Morning and Naughty Tricks and Sexy Tips: A Couple's Guide to Uninhibited Sexual Pleasure