Sex Q&A: Husband Doesn't Last Long Enough?

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My husband doesn't last more than five minutes during sex. Is there a way to make him last longer?


When the timing is right and you're cuddled up together, tell him that you'd like to “draw things out." While holding his hand, show him the sorts of caresses you want. Or suck his finger to show him the pressure you'd like on different parts of your body. When he's focused on your pleasure, he'll be less focused on his own. Stroke his hair, his back, his chest -- but don't stimulate his package.

Ask him to bring you to orgasm before you even have penetrative sex. He can use his mouth, his hands, and/or a vibrator. Once you've had your first orgasm, you can then start having sex. Try to get him to last longer by changing positions or the things you're doing -- without even telling him; this will actually slow him down. Imagine you're in the missionary position, and then you teasingly tell him how much you'd like to try doggy-style. By simply moving around to behind you, he stops getting immediate stimulation.

Finally, if he learns to strengthen his PC muscles (the ones he uses to stop himself from urinating), he can pulsate those when he's getting near to his own climax and slow down his orgasm. Let him know it'll make his orgasm more powerful when he gives into the desire -- a great incentive to draw it out.

Nestpert Dr. Pam Spurr, author of Make Love All Night & Talk to Him in the Morning and Naughty Tricks and Sexy Tips: A Couple's Guide to Uninhibited Sexual Pleasure

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