Sex Q&A: Premature Ejaculation Help?

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Many men who ejaculate prematurely simply don't recognize their "point of no return." This is the point where, no matter what happens, a man's got to ejaculate because he's so sexually excited. Through masturbation, he can start to identify this point, and when he reaches it, he should stop stimulating himself and relax for a bit before re-stimulating himself. The more he learns to hold back from reaching his point of no return, the more control he'll have.

Then get him to develop his pelvic floor muscles, which also strengthen his ability to keep his erection. Also, have him masturbate before he makes love to you, because his "second time around" should take longer. Suggest he focuses on your pleasure, so he's not thinking about how excited he feels. Slowly, through communication and these various techniques, he'll be able to last longer.

Nestpert Dr. Pam Spurr, author of Make Love All Night & Talk to Him in the Morning and Naughty Tricks and Sexy Tips: A Couple's Guide to Uninhibited Sexual Pleasure